I want to be very clear, and I want to be very honest.
I will not allow anyone to tell me what I can or cannot do in certain areas of my life. That may feel normal to some people but it is not normal for me, and it never will be. I have healthy, intentional boundaries, and I use them without apology. I do not owe explanations for the private areas of my life. Privacy is not secrecy. It is wisdom. Every person is allowed a life that is their own, regardless of how others feel about it.
I do not allow toxicity toward me or from me. I don’t entertain immaturity, manipulation, drama, gossip, or slander. None of it is godly. None of it produces growth. And at some point, if we are truly being honest with ourselves, there comes a time where we must pause and say Is It time to grow up? Not in a cruel way. In a reflective way. A way that asks, Where can I do better? Where can I mature? Where can I change?
We all have those areas. Whether someone is humble enough to admit them or too prideful to see them that is not for me to judge. There is only One who is all knowing. God sees our intentions, our hearts, our actions, and the way we live our lives when no one is watching.
Since being in the Bible truly in it something has shifted. Deeply. I’ve found myself putting out fires I didn’t start, or simply realizing I’ve outgrown people, behaviors, and ways of being that no longer align with who I am becoming. Growth will do that. Faith will do that. Truth will do that.
I do what is right, when it is right, with who it is right for and that is enough.
Not everyone is entitled to access to you. You can love people and still keep distance. You can forgive fully and still place firm boundaries. I live a life led by clarity, not confusion. Peace, not chaos. Intention, not reaction. And while I am not perfect and never will be I am incredibly proud of who I am, who I have become, and who I am still becoming.
We are all carrying something. Because of that, kindness matters. Compassion matters. The world is already heavy enough. Adding unnecessary drama only feeds what is already broken. The Bible does not call us to live in evil, or contribute to it it calls us to rise above it.
I’ve been reading powerful scripture lately truth that humbles, convicts, and transforms. And I will say this plainly if you pick up a Bible and truly soak in it, your life will change. Your habits will change. The way you speak will change. The way you treat people will change. And the people who are meant to walk with you in this life will become clear.
Everything else will fall away.
And that is not loss that is alignment.
Amen
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