Today was a good day busy, but good. Sundays are always packed for me. They’ve been my busiest day of the week for as long as I can remember, and honestly, I love that routine. It’s a full day of getting everything prepped for the week ahead, and while it’s a lot to do, the day flies by. It leaves me feeling put together, clear-headed, and ready to take on Monday.
I got all the food prepped, the whole place cleaned (even though it’s a new place and there’s not that much to clean yet), and I still went through everything to give it a full once-over. It’s also my hair wash day which, for me, is a whole process. I swear I have enough hair for three people. It’s super curly (like, really curly), but I usually straighten it. I love using my Dyson Airwrap total game changer. I’ve been trying to figure out how to keep my curls in without having to drown my hair in hairspray. I’m not big on heavy products just heat protection and moisture. That’s more my lane.
I also got my cardio in, like I do six days a week. This year, I set some very real and intentional goals for myself fitness, career, and maybe even a relationship. Some of that is in my hands, and some of it isn’t. All I can do is show up every day, stay present, and take it one moment at a time. Next challenge will be physical
Last night, I saw this amazing video on dating specifically how to tell if a guy actually likes you. And let’s be honest, with all the toxic breadcrumbing, love-bombing, and mixed signals, it’s hard to know anymore. But this video kept it real: if he wanted to call or text, he would. Period. We’re all on our phones 90% of the time, so that whole “I’ve been so busy” excuse? It just means “I’ve been too busy for you.”
And honestly, that’s your answer right there.
They said to stop hinting or hoping, and instead just ask directly. No games, no assumptions. Most people will try to dance around it (I know I’ve done that too), but the second you hear a “but,” it’s usually followed by everything you don’t want to hear.
The infamous “You’re amazing, you deserve better” line? Translation: I’m not the one.
“Maybe in time” or “I like you, but…”? Translation: I’m just not that into you.
We’ve got to stop wasting our time, energy, and hearts on people who don’t show up. If they wanted to they would. We’re all adults. We know better. And if you don’t know how to treat someone with honesty and respect, then maybe you shouldn’t be dating. At all.
It’s like making a clean shake every time you get hurt, someone tosses in a little nutmeg. Over time, you want to get that nutmeg out… but how? You can’t. It’s blended in. That’s what heartbreak after heartbreak does to people. It adds up.
So if you're not feeling it with someone? Say it. If you’re not looking for something serious? Say it. We’ve got to stop playing this new generation dating game and bring back old school effort and real, honest love.
Not every day is perfect. Life isn’t perfect. But there’s beauty in the truth, and peace in being real.
So here I am busy, growing, staying grounded, and choosing to show up with honesty and grace. Hope your Sunday was full of whatever you needed, too. 🖤